role playing

child
mother
daughter
sister

these define who i am
whatever i do
wherever i go
these are the roles i play
roles i did not necessarily choose to be
but roles that i had to fulfill

lover
girlfriend
wife

how about these?
are these still roles of volition?
aren't they defined by the things i do?
how is it that i choose not to be
but i am defined as these?

someone once told me
it is because i allow other people to treat me as such
and so i become as they expect me to be

could it be that their expectations
are so far up my ass i couldn't tell where
their bullshit ends and where mine begins?